As a child I lived for a time in Seoul, South Korea. As an adult, I'll return to Seoul with my husband to adopt a child. This is our journey back to Seoul.

Saturday, July 12, 2008

The Importance of Ethical Adoption

The article from CNN highlights the importance of ethical adoption. I’m sad for Allie and for her family but the possibility that there might be a woman in Guatemala missing her daughter is frightening. As difficult as the situation is, I appreciate that the US Government is asking some tough questions to be sure that the adoption is legitimate. Although I'm not sure as to why 13 years later is is still an unresolved issue (timeliness isn't a US Government forte).

http://www.cnn.com/2008/US/07/11/guatemalan.adoption/index.html


It’s a heart-wrenching situation for all parties involved and a reminder to adoptive parents to ask the hard questions ahead of time and to choose agencies and programs carefully. In our desire to have a family, we can’t be blind to the rights of the birth families and the children.

Lauren

Monday, July 7, 2008

On the Upswing

We’re heading back to life’s middle ground again, or actually more towards really good ground. After two weeks of searching, obsessive worrying, long nights of walking the woods to set traps, various trapped raccoons and possums, run-ins with foxes, swarms of neighborhood cats invading our deck looking for a free meal, and Alex’s broken ribs (yes, he fell and broke ribs looking for the cat), we had what can only be described as Divine Intervention or the Christmas Miracle 5 months early. Figby got hungry enough to get into a trap and we found her on Friday morning. We are so incredibly happy to have her home and although she was stressed in the trap, it took her between 20 and 30 seconds upon arriving home to figure out where she was and that life in our home is great. She seems so happy and almost relieved to be back as are we to have her. Alex took her to the vet on July 4th and she’s in good shape. She’s a little skinny, had a fever and a few ticks (the vet said the two were unrelated) and now she’s plumping up and eating like a champ. Her very sweet personality is coming back too and she follows us everywhere. She also slept the better part of her first two days home and we’re thinking she didn’t sleep much in the two weeks she was away (one eye open watching for foxes). Thank you to everyone that said kitty prayers for her. We know it played a role in her coming home and we are very thankful.

Alex’s Uncle JC is doing okay too. They discharged him from the hospital to the rehab center post-surgery but it was too early and he’s back at the hospital. He’s getting very good care and is healing well but it’s a long road back from cardiac surgery. He’s in great spirits and very motivated to get better every day.

So we can focus on celebrating Baby JH’s homecoming. Our feelings and emotions are running the spectrum from exhilarated to nervous to sad. We’re thinking a lot about his birth family and wondering if and when our paths will cross in the future. It’s our hope that we’ll find each other. In the mean time, we’ll honor them as part of our family and keep the door open. We’re also thinking about and talking about Baby JH’s foster family. We’re so happy to finally head to Seoul but we know that this is a difficult time for them as they separate from this little boy that has been part of their family for 5 months. We’re looking forward to meeting them and expressing our gratitude in person.

We’ll post pictures from Seoul. Thanks to so many of you who have helped us arrive at this moment. In all sincerity, it takes a village and we’re happy to have you as part of ours.

Lauren